“You can’t fire me. I quit.” – Bill Maher
I think it takes a lot of guts to kill yourself. It’s stupid, maybe.
“Suicide is for cowards.” Somehow this is a statement that’s hard for me to comprehend. And in all honesty, I disagree with it. It’s easy for us to say that he didn’t have the guts to live, or to face his obstacles and overcome them. It’s easy for us to say that everyone has problems. But put yourself in the head of the person who is about to kill himself.
Life, in itself, is a beautiful thing. And in spite of a lot of shit that we all face, we are still alive. We choose to live. I’m sure many of us have come across moments where we wish we were dead. I know I have. But I couldn’t in a million years take my life. I’ve thought about it, yes. But carry it out? No way! That’s when I wonder; what must it be that drives someone to hang himself, or take an overdose of pills, or shoot himself in the head?
How does one feel about not being able to see another day ever again? How does one feel about not being able to spend time with his loved ones ever again? Is it really easy to end your life? Could you do it? So how must his life be that he doesn’t care to keep it? How and when does a person decide that his life is worth nothing? How do you think that makes him feel?
I’m not justifying the act of suicide. Or maybe I am. My point is that nobody sits and tosses a coin everyday saying, “Heads, I live. Tails, I die.” If the question is do I think suicide is an act of cowardice? My answer is no.
It’s stupid, maybe. But I think it takes a lot of guts to kill yourself.
Note: If anybody is hit by a sudden bout of courage and decides to commit suicide, don’t forget to mention me in your suicide note. And while I’m on the subject, take note that it’s not “I’ve decided to suicide” but “I’ve decided to commit suicide”. You don’t want to leave on the wrong note, do you?
posted by LovingAndLosing @ 7:20 pm
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Think twice before u act, think a 100 times before u enact :P
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I think the thought of doing it puts most of us off. But in a moment of unclarity it happens, just as easy as someone pulling a trigger on someone or other henious acts..
Hoo hoo! I shall mention you in my suicide note.
Here's to Ms V, who thinks about other people's suicide notes.
What fun.
I'm not too sure what that meant, RA.
Uncover Japan, I do think there's a huge difference between pulling a trigger on someone else as opposed to on oneself.
Yohan, it's just another topic. Don't judge me! :o
I agree. My thought process on suicide is exactly the same as yours. It really should take lots of courage to "end" your life. You don't even know whats gonnu happen. You may think life is hell and I'll commit suicide, but you never know what other sorts of hell you may face later (I am not talking in the context of hell and heaven, hell as in hell lot of trouble :-D). Atleast, if you are alive, there just might be a way out of your troubles...
I think suicide is usually an impulse, an instinctive reaction which is executed without any thought process. All those who have committed suicide, I'm sure, would have regretted it in the last moment between commiting suicide and death, if there was any..
I liked your last statement, Deeps! I'm sure they do regret it.
hey.. visiting ur blog for the 1st time.. i completely agree with u.. infact u have reflected my thoughts like they're ur own!!! it takes a lot to decide not see 'tmrw' again.. i dont have it..
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Heyyyyy. NO offence. Just making my reappearance on the blog scene. I've spoken about suicide loads of times...but never actually contemplated it as a career option. I've dreamed that I died a few times. Painless. And when I cross the street I wonder if I'll get crushed under the wheels of some maniacal bus. And you know what I think about my own death?
My parents would be upset.
Oops! Okay. I misinterpreted the tone of your previous comment then. My bad. Btw, suicide wouldn't make a very long-lived career, would it? ;)
There are too many factors to consider when thinking about why someone commits suicide. Can't say if its cowardice or not but its hell disturbing.
Consider the following scenario..
You are female. You have just been raped. By someone you know.
You can do one of three things..
1) You can go after the bloody man. You can ensure that he is prosecuted by continuously pestering the officials in charge of the case, each time bringing back memories of the incident. Everyone gets to know of it. You can then testify to the rape in public and go through defense cross-examination where every gross detail of the incident is brought out. Then the man goes to jail(for life) or is hanged and you settle down to live a miserable life. Every night you relive your nightmare, but you get up bravely in the morning and get things done. Society looks down upon you. People may be nice to you but in your heart you wonder what they are thinking. But you still manage to put all these thoughts aside and concentrate on your tasks. Unlike in the movies, no one comes forward to marry you. But you don't care.. there is more to life. You focus on ignoring the sympathies people keep offering you without doing any real help. You put the past behind you and build on your talents. If you write well, you make it big and proclaim to the world that you lived your life to the fullest.
2) You can keep it a secret. You spend the rest of your life having nightmares. You suffer every single day the humiliation of being raped. But you manage to live a supposedly normal life. People treat you as they would have otherwise. You are not shunned by society. The pain is only in your heart. And it rages on till you die. Of course the perpetrator of the heinous crime goes scot free. He is pleased with himself and is encouraged to continue along the same lines.
3) You could commit suicide.. preferring the pain of a few seconds(in fact some poisons would kill you painlessly) to the pain of a lifetime. (Let us assume that the rapist is caught and punished).
Which of the 3 would require the most guts? and which the least? What would most people do?
I don't really know that death via poison is painless, do I? Until I've ingested it, by which time it's too late anyway. In this scenario, I think it takes guts down either path that is chosen. Maybe the 3rd option is least gutsy, I don't know. But it still requires guts. That's my only point. I'm not measuring the amount of guts here.
What I meant was that before u do something, u shud think twice, but u must think a lot and lot if u r gonna do something that will affect others!
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Hmm...seems like a potential career to me..Elementary Grammar for suicides!
Is this what you meant when you said you'd try to be as unpredictable as they come?
Live for yourself and not for others. I believe in that. And there's nothing selfish about that, btw.
And yes, Vikas. That's what I meant! ;)
You can live life for urself, but in that process, u wantedly or unwantedly influence a lot of people's lives. You need not give a damn abt it, but its good to keep tht in mind when u r making decisions.. The machines calculate in absolute terms. We as humans have to be more dealt relative terms and I do think the thousands of souls who knows u wud be sorry if u were to make such a stupid decision. For example, i wud have 2 less blogs to go to...So, its always not juz abt u..its abt those who get influenced by ur actions. Rights come with responsibilities, said and unsaid. I pay tax, so I have every damn right to park my vehicle in the middle of the road aint that right!
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I kind of think 2) would require the least guts.. and 1) the most, since you would HAVE to pick one of the three options.
3) is cowardly when compared to 1) but courageous when compared to 2) is what I was trying to say... :-).
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